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You and your spouse will know better whether the separation or separation of court proceedings is better for you. It may be a difficult conversation, but I hope that committing a plan will give you both the opportunity to heal and return to the relationship with a refreshed attitude and perspective. However, separation can be a useful time to step back and try to understand the other person and his or her concerns. If the other person does the same, a better understanding of the underlying problems and how they can be sorted will likely be achieved with far less criticism. Through constructive methods to improve harmony, such as The Gottman-Rapoport Intervention and The Two Oval Compromise Method, an experienced couple therapist could help Lauren and Justin compromise, give each other the benefit of the doubt and establish an affectionate relationship, whether or not they choose to separate. According to author Tinatin Japaeridze, what some call the “need for a partner`s space” is a legitimate cry from this play. She says that men and women sometimes need quiet time to find out what is essential to their relationship, and that a planned marital separation can sometimes save a marriage. Instead of focusing on making mistakes, Lauren and Justin could reconnect with the common sense that brought them together and decide to renew their commitment to their marriage. Or if they decide during couple therapy that a separation of studies would be beneficial, the role of a therapist is to help them develop the guidelines. If a temporary separation is done in the right way and for the right reasons and there are clear agreements, it can help couples to have a perspective on their relationship and to really strengthen it. To successfully separate the process, a couple would have to accept five key rules. Even if this separation is only an attempt, there are still many details the spouses should arrange in advance for it to work. On the other hand, Justin could put their children to bed until 9 p.m.
in the inflexible zone, but be prepared to write, “I`m fine if they stay the weekend until 10 p.m.” By identifying their main needs and ways of compromise, Lauren and Justin are ready to work on a productive separation of attempts.